WHAT WE ALL WANT FOR OUR CHILDREN. By Vera Ribeiro da Cunha
What do we all want for our children?
May they be happy right?
I have a goal for my children that was the same as my mother taught me.
What I want for my children is that they continue to be happy and good people.
I deeply believe that only happy people can be good, and good people can be truly happy.
Isn't that at the end of the day we all want it?
When we are choosing the school that will welcome our children during their school life, what do we have in mind? What criteria do we use in choosing? Do we have the will to read the goals for the preschooler? Knowing what is truly important?
We often hear: “well, he already knows how to count to 100, he can already write numbers up to 50 without changing, he already knows how to read many words… he is very prepared for the first year”! But what's behind it? How is this child emotionally?
Evidently there are skills to be acquired, objectives to be met, but there is much to do and discover before reading, writing and summing up!!
Before sitting down in the chair at school, the child takes the first steps towards autonomy and independence so that, from an early age and in a natural way, they feel safe and capable of managing the challenges that arise at any time.
But there are so many skills that we have to teach and that obviously the school helps a lot: frustration tolerance, self-esteem, self-confidence, persistence, resilience – the ability to face frustration in a positive way. This ability leads the child to be strong and optimistic! Solidarity, sharing, limits, knowing how to make mistakes... learning to know how to make mistakes is one of the biggest challenges for me. In school we will make mistakes to learn. In life we will make mistakes to learn. In addition to emotional intelligence of course. Learning to express and regulate emotions.
The ability to make friends and be accepted into the peer group. It is in preschool that great friendships begin to form. Where you begin to learn to feel the warmth of your friends' hugs.
The capacity for cooperation cannot be forgotten either. Learning to cooperate, to do group tasks, where you have to learn to wait your turn, where you have to discuss group tasks.
Creativity and imagination! Creativity is essential in preparing the child for the learning phase.
The child grows, learns, develops through the interactions he establishes with people who love him, who take care of him, who give him security, who are attentive to his characteristics, who challenge him.
Finally, what is most important, what is essential, what can never be put aside... play . Playing is a right. Children grow up playing. They learn to play.
Remember that in education there are no goals. It is a path to be walked. Every day is good days and new days to transform ourselves into better people. And so we inspire our children to be better too!
Per Vera Ribeiro da Cunha , Educational Psychologist
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